Special children

Parenting Special children or the children with mental imparement is the toughest job. A person with mental retardation has to have both significantly low IQ and considerable problems in everyday functioning. Mental retardation may be complicated by several different physical and emotional problems. The child may also have difficulty with hearing, sight or speech.Most children with mental retardation can learn a great deal, and as adults can lead atleast partially independent lives.It is very important that the child has a comprehensive evaluation to find out about his or her strengths and needs. Since no specialist has all the necessary skills, many professionals might be involved. General medical tests as well as tests in areas such as neurology (the nervous system), psychology, psychiatry, special education, hearing, speech and vision, and physical therapy are useful.These physicians refer the child for the necessary tests and consultations, put together the results, and jointly with the family and the school develop a comprehensive treatment and education plan.
Early diagnosis of psychiatric disorders in children with mental retardation leads to early treatment. Medications can be helpful as one part of overall treatment and management of children with mental retardation.

Causes: there can be numerous causes for mental impairment..
1. Sometimes disability is caused by abnormal genes inherited from parents or errors when genes combine.

2.Mental disability can result when the fetus does not develop inside the mother properly. For example, there may be a problem with the way the fetus's cells divide as it grows. A woman who drinks alcohol (see fetal alcohol syndrome) or gets an infection like rubella during pregnancy may also have a baby with mental disability.

3. If a baby has problems during labor and birth, such as not getting enough oxygen, he or she may have developmental disability due to brain damage.

4. or it can be due to Iodine deficiency(affecting approximately 2 billion people worldwide, is the leading preventable cause of mental disability in areas of the developing world where iodine deficiency is endemic.), malnutrion(Malnutrition is a common cause of reduced intelligence in parts of the world affected by famine, such as Ethiopia.)

5.The use of forceps during birth can lead to mental retardation in an otherwise normal child. They can fracture the skull and cause brain damage.

6.Sensory deprivation in the form of severe environmental restrictions (such as being locked in a basement or under a staircase), prolonged isolation, or severe atypical parent-child interactions.

These children are special in true sense. they are like flowers who need proper care and attention, extra love and affection to grow and to survive. These are always so pure hearted and so untouched by the world's cruelilty. educating them and making them partially self independent is toughest but remarkable job.

Love them..

My Childhood- a random diary entry

Life for me has always been an exciting adventure. Like everyone's life I too have had my share of pains and joys. I am pretty sure there will be even more. During childhood I was quite a naughty child, always up to some or the other mischief. Ask my mother and she will not stop for hours  reminiscing my infancy (mostly about troubling her and my sister) . She will then continue her thoughts over the innocence and big heart of my sister and finally only one line for my brother, filled up with pride- "he never troubled me."  He was boring!! Though now he has developed the wits that can not be beaten.

As like any first child, jealousy molded in me when I saw my younger sister first time. Idea of sharing my portion of attention from my parents with her made me work for my own survival. One day I took her up and be seated her on a drainage pipe, hoping she'll melt down from there. It was a stupid but innocent attempt. Glad I had a bird's brain that time. Soon I realized that she can be my playmate and companion at home. After that ,nothing so dangerous and peculiar occurred to me. I used to invite her for breakfast, menu being  pancakes of soil from our backyard and things like that. I was born and brought up in a joint family in initial years of my age. Being eldest in my group of children, I was the Sardar or leader of the gang. The position served its purpose of being given a special respect and obeying all orders by younger lot. We had quite a big house. That gave us many opportunities to be adventurous discovering hidden corners and untouched places there. Playing with mud, collecting crap found in the process of discovery. Changing shoes and clothes to go to neighbor's house to scoff on cold drinks; pouring whole bottle of shampoo in chilling winters over my sister's head in order to make her more beautiful- I have done it all. 

While things at home were pleasant and fun, going to school was a pain. It was a place for me that used to throw me out of my comfort zone. It was a place full of strange teachers who used to make me do what they want to; without seeking for my approval. Understanding things that were not related to the life around me was killing. Still coming back to home, seeing my mother and father, meeting my little angels used to lighten up my ideas for new and different kind of adventure.

While things around me were always busy, still I managed to get some time by myself. I had a huge crush on myself. Mirror was my companion when no one else was around. (I do still have that habit sometimes- moment of truth). Making faces before it; talking to myself, taking my own interviews thinking of myself as some celebrity along with some attempts to make myself look more beautiful is what my mother fondly recalls. I used to run to my mother saying "mummy dekho, main gori ho gayi". After looking at me and smelling the powder I had put over my face- my mother used to shout at me. Once there was pesticide powder, and other time it was paint (I somehow managed to get it from neighborhood when labor was off for lunch.  I used to put beads and flowers inside my nose and ears, thinking that they'll act as nose-pins and earrings. My mother used to get so tired with these daily doses!!

Photographs from heydays and such stories from my mother are quite an evidence of the fact that I had a rocking and animated childhood. I was lost from home many times, sometimes was found with my cousin in our neighbor's place, or in the nearby temple (to get prasad), or I was found in a shop talking to the shopkeeper gulping toffees and chocolates from his shop and sometimes hidden at the back of sofa, conspiring with my cousins about the next move. 

I was a creative soul too. I used to make mud arts (that my younger siblings, used to eat, thinking them to be mud "cakes"), paintings, models, wall hangings. My parents always supported my artwork. They used to display them in our drawing room, leaving me with a feeling that my art is worth a millions. There are so many stories about my life that I can cover all many gigabites on internet. I wish every child gets that kind of space. There must be more to life besides idiot box, computer, and usual studies- to retain that innocence in a child. :)

PISCES WOMAN

I am a Pisces woman and I enjoyed this article a way too much. Sharing it here and dedicating it to all of my clan and to those who have fallen in love with us. God save you :D

PISCES WOMAN likes to be in a dream world than to be in reality. She is weak and sensitive when it's come to "Love". She can cry if her best friend is breaking up, and she can be over excited when her friend gets a new boy friend who is a good looking and rich even it is nothing concerned her at all. You might be surprised to see that she is shy just because she is in love. More or less it will be in Pisces woman. She loves kids and small animals and is gifted in training animals. She has sixth senses and she can guess what will happen next, it's her nature. Even if she has a good sixth senses, she can not pick or foreseen her own choice of lover. She can not tell if she meets a sincere guy or a one night stand guy. She likes to buy and pick her own clothes. She likes to dress cute and be cute. Pisces woman tend to be a good looking woman and she has a nice skin. Her hands and feet are small and soft. Pisces woman loves to shop for shoes as if she collects them. She is a hot lady that everyone wants her. Whether she has a man in her life or not , she will never try to over powered any man. It's not even in her thoughts. She thinks man can handle things better, and she will make her man feel that way. She is an easy going person, so being with her is easy. She is a confident woman and likes to make people who stay with her happy. She knows how to please and how to comfort a man. If something is wrong, she will try to make other people believe that it's must be because of someone else, and not because of her loved ones. She will not push her man to an ambition but will make him feel like he should be happy with the way he is now. She is happy with you for what you are now. A Pisces woman , if she has a bad childhood, she will always remember it and it will make her a very unhappy person. She'll pity herself and feel sorry for herself. She tends to hurt herself with out knowing it and so vulnerable to drugs (real drugs or just sleeping pills). She has many choices and you can never tell which path she going to take. If you love her , then hold her tight because she never knows why she did what she did or what she will do next. A complex character. You may think she is a shy innocent type and can not hurt anyone, you are wrong. You might think she is a fragile person who needs protection, wrong again. She has been through a lot, a tough cookie. She is a dreamer and love the word "Love", so she is the type who will buy gift for anyone for any occasion, especially if it is a gift for wedding or an anniversary even for someone who she does not know so well. Be very careful if fall in love with Pisces woman. She can be a total different person before and after. She can be angel before and later a witch, but everyone is not perfect, right? She will be soft and gentle most of the time, so not to worry. She is emotional and extremely sensitive when she frequently got hurt. She is the type who can cry her heart out. She can have a secret fear inside, when she says she does not need anyone. She badly needs someone to protect her, but sometimes she can hide that feeling by being stubborn. She likes to hide her shyness and her weakness from her enemy. She does not like to follow any fixed rules. She can be a good housewife if you know how to handle her. Many men will ask to marry her because she is a 100% woman. If she wants to be sweet, she is a real angels.