So this post is about an instance that happened probably 2 weeks ago. I was coming back from my office in metro train. It was 6.30 in the evening when train stopped at Kashmiri Gate station. Queue of people rushed inside with a great force, some people broke it some managed to follow it. I was sitting, when a young lady showed frustration on a man of middle age, for not following queue system. And from there this story actually started. That man started saying "This is India, and in India there is no system. Govt. never creates rules and if it creates it never follows it..." I got confused if that man wanted government to pass laws for lining up in queues to enter metro trains. Anyhow, he said a few more lines when suddenly a very aged sardar ji sitting after 3 or 4 people in between said "Beta dont curse govt. we are a democratic country. We make laws. Everything is upon us. We should do our duties and we must not blame others for not following theirs"
And so arguments started. Middle aged man continued, and sardarji kept on answering him very patiently. And so within a few minutes quite many people sitting or standing nearby got involved in that conversation. On one side there was that middle aged man, and on the other rest of the people standing and sitting in that compartment. I was listening each and everything very patiently, smiling and feeling joy to see so many people united for their nation. When suddenly one aunty near me said "beta he is a mad person, these are not good times and dont say anything if u are about to. He might be having some knife with which he can harm you." and again she stopped her husband from interfering giving same reason when her husband asked her to stop talking rubbish! lol
I again wondered This happens only in India..
Anyhow young or old, ladies or gents, everybody stood united against that man. And after 10 minutes of arguments, things started getting peaceful, with a little discussions here and there. So my journey that day got over too and i was pretty satisfied after watching love in people for their country.
God Bless you all.
And always keep smiling. :)
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Sunday, October 19, 2008
Tuesday, September 2, 2008
Vedas and Vedic Studies
The sacred Hindu texts, Collectively referred to as the Shastras, has two types of sacred writings in the Hindu scriptures: Shruti (heard) and Smriti (memorized).
*Sruti literature refers to the habit of ancient Hindu saints who led a solitary life in the woods, where they developed a consciousness that enabled them to 'hear' or cognize the truths of the universe. Sruti literatures are of two parts: the Vedas and the Upanishads.
Vedas
The word Veda came out from the word vid that means knowledge. When it is applied to scripture, it signifies a book of knowledge. They are the foundational scriptures of the Hindus. vedas are believed to be the most ancient books that have mantras in them.And it is believed that no human has created them and they were created by God himself. The Vedas are the eternal truths revealed by God to the great ancient Rishis of India. Rishi means the seer i.e the one who sees, seer of Mantra or thought. The thought was not his own. The Rishis saw the truths or heard them. Therefore, the Vedas are what are heard (Sruti). He was the seer of thought which existed already. He was only the spiritual discoverer of the thought, and not the inventor. So Vedas were never written, never created. They are eternal and impersonal.
The most ancient veda is Rig veda then Samveda, Yajurveda and the least is Atharva veda..
Initially Atharva veda wasnt considered as a part of vedas. And it was believed that there are only three vedas. But later on its was accepted as a part of vedas, and formed chatur veda.
All vedas are considered to have mantras that are used to perform ceremonies and rituals. since the oldest is Rig veda so it has got all the mantras and all other vedas have more or less repetitions of the mantras that are written in Rig veda. So Rig veda is the base of all the other vedas.
(1) Rig Veda have all the mantras in them, which are used to perform rituals. its is the oldest veda.
(2) Sama Veda all the mantras that are written in Rig veda are repeated but in a poetic manner. a tune has been given to mantras in sama veda
(3) Yajurveda has also got some repetetion of mantras that are in Rig veda.. and apart from that it has some additional mantras for performing yagya and bali.
(4) Atharva Veda- again Atharva veda also has some mantras of Rig veda.. But in addition to that it has got mantras for voodoo.
As per hindu relegion Mantra-Samhitas, the Brahmanas, the Aranyakas, and the Upanishads are combinely called vedas. i.e vedas are divided into 4 parts. The division of the Vedas into four parts is to suit the four stages in a man's life or known as ashramas in hindu system.A mans age is believed to be of 100 yrs. so each ashrama is for 25 yrs.
(a) Brahmacharya ashram is the first stage in a human's life. According to hindu system a man should study uptill 25 yrs. these are the years to learn.
(b) Grihastha Ashram is the second stage that is from 25yrs to 50yrs. A man should marry and make family. Bring up his children and apply his studies that he did in brahmacharya ashram to support his family.
(c)Vanaprasth ashram is the third stage in a man's life that is from 50-75 yrs. In this ashram a man along with his wife leaves the home for swadhyayan or self-study. This is the stage where a man starts cutting himself from the rest of the world and starts learning the eternal thruths of life.
(d) Last stage in a man's life is Sanyaas ashram i.e. from 75 yrs to rest of his life. It is the rule of life that one who comes has to go one day. And God is the creator of this life. So a man in this ashrama solely without his/her spouse leaves all the comforts and relations that he made in his entire life and lives a life that made him/her closer to almigthy God.
Division of vedas as told earlier, suits four stages in life.
(i) Mantra Samhitas -they are hymns in praise of the Vedic God for attaining material prosperity here and happiness hereafter. The Mantra portion of the Vedas is useful for the Brahmacharins.
(ii) Brahmanas are explanations of Mantras or rituals. The Brahmana portions guide people to perform sacrificial rites. They are prose explanations of the method of using the Mantras in the Yajna or the sacrifice. The Brahmana portion is suitable for the householders or grihasthas.
(iii) The Aranyakas are the forest books, they contain the phylosophies about life and almigthy that were written and explored in forests. The Aranyakas are intended for the Vanaprasthas or hermits who prepare themselves for taking Sannyasa.
(iv) The Upanishads are the most important portion of the Vedas. The Upanishads contain the essence or the knowledge portion of the Vedas. The Upanishads speak of the identity of the individual soul and the Supreme Soul. They reveal the most subtle and deep spiritual truths. The Upanishads are useful for the Sannyasins. there are 108 upnishads out of which 11 most important.
*Smriti Literature refers to 'memorized' or 'remembered' poetry and epics. It explains universal truths through symbolism and mythology, and contain some of the most beautiful and exciting stories in the history of religion world literature. Some of the most important of Smriti literature are:
1. Bhagwat Geeta- it is the sixth part of Mahabharata, written about the 2nd century BC . It contains some of the most brilliant theological lessons about the nature of God and of life ever written.
2. The Mahabharata - The world's longest epic poem written about 9th century BC, and deals with the power struggle between the Pandava and the Kaurava families, with an intertwining of numerous episodes that make up life.
3. The Ramayana - The most popular of Hindu epics, composed by Valmiki around 4th or 2nd centuries BC with later additions up to about 300 CE. It depicts the story of the royal couple of Ayodha - Ram and Sita and a host of other characters and their exploits
4. Purana- they contains myths, stories, legends, lives of saints, kings and great men, allegories and chronicles of great historical events.They were written to popularise the studies of vedas and to generate the devotion for God. The Puranas were meant, not for the scholars, but for the ordinary people who could not understand high philosophy and who could not study the Vedas.There are 18 puranas. Of these, six are Sattvic Puranas and glorify Vishnu; six are Rajasic and glorify Brahma; six are Tamasic and they glorify Siva.
*Sruti literature refers to the habit of ancient Hindu saints who led a solitary life in the woods, where they developed a consciousness that enabled them to 'hear' or cognize the truths of the universe. Sruti literatures are of two parts: the Vedas and the Upanishads.
Vedas
The word Veda came out from the word vid that means knowledge. When it is applied to scripture, it signifies a book of knowledge. They are the foundational scriptures of the Hindus. vedas are believed to be the most ancient books that have mantras in them.And it is believed that no human has created them and they were created by God himself. The Vedas are the eternal truths revealed by God to the great ancient Rishis of India. Rishi means the seer i.e the one who sees, seer of Mantra or thought. The thought was not his own. The Rishis saw the truths or heard them. Therefore, the Vedas are what are heard (Sruti). He was the seer of thought which existed already. He was only the spiritual discoverer of the thought, and not the inventor. So Vedas were never written, never created. They are eternal and impersonal.
The most ancient veda is Rig veda then Samveda, Yajurveda and the least is Atharva veda..
Initially Atharva veda wasnt considered as a part of vedas. And it was believed that there are only three vedas. But later on its was accepted as a part of vedas, and formed chatur veda.
All vedas are considered to have mantras that are used to perform ceremonies and rituals. since the oldest is Rig veda so it has got all the mantras and all other vedas have more or less repetitions of the mantras that are written in Rig veda. So Rig veda is the base of all the other vedas.
(1) Rig Veda have all the mantras in them, which are used to perform rituals. its is the oldest veda.
(2) Sama Veda all the mantras that are written in Rig veda are repeated but in a poetic manner. a tune has been given to mantras in sama veda
(3) Yajurveda has also got some repetetion of mantras that are in Rig veda.. and apart from that it has some additional mantras for performing yagya and bali.
(4) Atharva Veda- again Atharva veda also has some mantras of Rig veda.. But in addition to that it has got mantras for voodoo.
As per hindu relegion Mantra-Samhitas, the Brahmanas, the Aranyakas, and the Upanishads are combinely called vedas. i.e vedas are divided into 4 parts. The division of the Vedas into four parts is to suit the four stages in a man's life or known as ashramas in hindu system.A mans age is believed to be of 100 yrs. so each ashrama is for 25 yrs.
(a) Brahmacharya ashram is the first stage in a human's life. According to hindu system a man should study uptill 25 yrs. these are the years to learn.
(b) Grihastha Ashram is the second stage that is from 25yrs to 50yrs. A man should marry and make family. Bring up his children and apply his studies that he did in brahmacharya ashram to support his family.
(c)Vanaprasth ashram is the third stage in a man's life that is from 50-75 yrs. In this ashram a man along with his wife leaves the home for swadhyayan or self-study. This is the stage where a man starts cutting himself from the rest of the world and starts learning the eternal thruths of life.
(d) Last stage in a man's life is Sanyaas ashram i.e. from 75 yrs to rest of his life. It is the rule of life that one who comes has to go one day. And God is the creator of this life. So a man in this ashrama solely without his/her spouse leaves all the comforts and relations that he made in his entire life and lives a life that made him/her closer to almigthy God.
Division of vedas as told earlier, suits four stages in life.
(i) Mantra Samhitas -they are hymns in praise of the Vedic God for attaining material prosperity here and happiness hereafter. The Mantra portion of the Vedas is useful for the Brahmacharins.
(ii) Brahmanas are explanations of Mantras or rituals. The Brahmana portions guide people to perform sacrificial rites. They are prose explanations of the method of using the Mantras in the Yajna or the sacrifice. The Brahmana portion is suitable for the householders or grihasthas.
(iii) The Aranyakas are the forest books, they contain the phylosophies about life and almigthy that were written and explored in forests. The Aranyakas are intended for the Vanaprasthas or hermits who prepare themselves for taking Sannyasa.
(iv) The Upanishads are the most important portion of the Vedas. The Upanishads contain the essence or the knowledge portion of the Vedas. The Upanishads speak of the identity of the individual soul and the Supreme Soul. They reveal the most subtle and deep spiritual truths. The Upanishads are useful for the Sannyasins. there are 108 upnishads out of which 11 most important.
*Smriti Literature refers to 'memorized' or 'remembered' poetry and epics. It explains universal truths through symbolism and mythology, and contain some of the most beautiful and exciting stories in the history of religion world literature. Some of the most important of Smriti literature are:
1. Bhagwat Geeta- it is the sixth part of Mahabharata, written about the 2nd century BC . It contains some of the most brilliant theological lessons about the nature of God and of life ever written.
2. The Mahabharata - The world's longest epic poem written about 9th century BC, and deals with the power struggle between the Pandava and the Kaurava families, with an intertwining of numerous episodes that make up life.
3. The Ramayana - The most popular of Hindu epics, composed by Valmiki around 4th or 2nd centuries BC with later additions up to about 300 CE. It depicts the story of the royal couple of Ayodha - Ram and Sita and a host of other characters and their exploits
4. Purana- they contains myths, stories, legends, lives of saints, kings and great men, allegories and chronicles of great historical events.They were written to popularise the studies of vedas and to generate the devotion for God. The Puranas were meant, not for the scholars, but for the ordinary people who could not understand high philosophy and who could not study the Vedas.There are 18 puranas. Of these, six are Sattvic Puranas and glorify Vishnu; six are Rajasic and glorify Brahma; six are Tamasic and they glorify Siva.
Sunday, August 24, 2008
Mirror Mirror On The Wall
Alarm clock starts yelling. Its another day. And as like some custom we all head towards mirror. It may be large, medium or a very small one, but the facination it holds is largest than that of anything else in this world. Our routine starts with it and ends with it.
Sometimes it seems as if somebody is staring at us from behind a glass or else vice-versa. And because of formation of this magnetic relationship of ourselves with us, we also call it "Looking Glass". More and more we look in that glass, more we keep on discovering great deal of details about our appearance that were hidden till now. I wonder why sellers shouldn't sell mirrors with a statutory warning on it quoting : "Prolonged use may lead to serious side effects like self obsession, over-confidence, addiction or job dissmisal due to continuous delays in reaching the work place".
Even if the person is very ordinary looking still mirror teaches him to love himself. Beautiful features of a person prompts him/her to consult the mirror every now and then, or else sometimes it compliments us digging and discovering best from our souls like our smile, expressions of peace, love and care over our faces that makes us more beautiful. Mirror brings us close to ourselves forming a unique bond with itself and with ourselves that its beyond description. Its a remedy to boost our confidence. Its a wonder out of wonderland.
Mirror leaves its impact on us in three ways:
Case I : When we look in it and discover we look usual just like any other day, maximum chances are its going to be just another day for us(provided if nothing exciting happens on the work front too).
Case II: If it tells us that we look great and better than the previous day/s, probability is higher that that day will be the day full of admiration, confidence and cheering.
Case III: And now last, as like it happens at times with most of us, we have bad hair days, swollen eyes or something of that sort and we dont find ourselves good enough for another look. As mirror makes us self concious, so due to that we may have a hard day or may be the lost one. And if there is nothing excieting at work place and nobody finds a time to chit-chat with us, or give us a pleasant glance, its going to be the worst one!!
Though some people manages to escape its lure, but more or less it affects our lives in such a fashion. A mirror is that dynamite that can make or break our entire day or rather boost or shatter our whole confidence. The time we spend before it is the time we are spending with ourselves, remembering and adoring ourselves.
People practice speech before going out in meetings or dates, just to be sure about themselves and because of their desire to present best of them before the other person. When sombody is upset or someone is crying, it is surprising to see the forgotten expression of their sorrows, due to their encounter with the mirror. Children stop crying, people stop thinking as and when they are before it. It makes us concious of ourselves.
Shopkeepers know the cunning ways of mirrors. So they all use mirrors elaborately with bright lighting inside their shops, making their customers concious, alert and obsessive about their appearance, which compells a person to shed bucks and bucks on the accessories and clothes for themselves just to quench their souls. It is no wonder that sometimes we bring in home many useless things and clothes that were looking one of the bests in shops but are now worst choice one can ever make. Many times it also happens, that while shopping somebody "not so pleasing" , sitting besides, disturbs us with his weird stares and if suddenly mirrors comes in a way, we suddenly forget everything and becomes concious about ourself ignoring the other things, places, event and people around. Mirror changes priorities of the moment.
I have heard eyes and love are the only things that says alot without saying anything. Mirror does the same, creating many magical moments around. Its a love for oneself. Call it my love for mirror.. :)
Sometimes it seems as if somebody is staring at us from behind a glass or else vice-versa. And because of formation of this magnetic relationship of ourselves with us, we also call it "Looking Glass". More and more we look in that glass, more we keep on discovering great deal of details about our appearance that were hidden till now. I wonder why sellers shouldn't sell mirrors with a statutory warning on it quoting : "Prolonged use may lead to serious side effects like self obsession, over-confidence, addiction or job dissmisal due to continuous delays in reaching the work place".
Even if the person is very ordinary looking still mirror teaches him to love himself. Beautiful features of a person prompts him/her to consult the mirror every now and then, or else sometimes it compliments us digging and discovering best from our souls like our smile, expressions of peace, love and care over our faces that makes us more beautiful. Mirror brings us close to ourselves forming a unique bond with itself and with ourselves that its beyond description. Its a remedy to boost our confidence. Its a wonder out of wonderland.
Mirror leaves its impact on us in three ways:
Case I : When we look in it and discover we look usual just like any other day, maximum chances are its going to be just another day for us(provided if nothing exciting happens on the work front too).
Case II: If it tells us that we look great and better than the previous day/s, probability is higher that that day will be the day full of admiration, confidence and cheering.
Case III: And now last, as like it happens at times with most of us, we have bad hair days, swollen eyes or something of that sort and we dont find ourselves good enough for another look. As mirror makes us self concious, so due to that we may have a hard day or may be the lost one. And if there is nothing excieting at work place and nobody finds a time to chit-chat with us, or give us a pleasant glance, its going to be the worst one!!
Though some people manages to escape its lure, but more or less it affects our lives in such a fashion. A mirror is that dynamite that can make or break our entire day or rather boost or shatter our whole confidence. The time we spend before it is the time we are spending with ourselves, remembering and adoring ourselves.
People practice speech before going out in meetings or dates, just to be sure about themselves and because of their desire to present best of them before the other person. When sombody is upset or someone is crying, it is surprising to see the forgotten expression of their sorrows, due to their encounter with the mirror. Children stop crying, people stop thinking as and when they are before it. It makes us concious of ourselves.
Shopkeepers know the cunning ways of mirrors. So they all use mirrors elaborately with bright lighting inside their shops, making their customers concious, alert and obsessive about their appearance, which compells a person to shed bucks and bucks on the accessories and clothes for themselves just to quench their souls. It is no wonder that sometimes we bring in home many useless things and clothes that were looking one of the bests in shops but are now worst choice one can ever make. Many times it also happens, that while shopping somebody "not so pleasing" , sitting besides, disturbs us with his weird stares and if suddenly mirrors comes in a way, we suddenly forget everything and becomes concious about ourself ignoring the other things, places, event and people around. Mirror changes priorities of the moment.
I have heard eyes and love are the only things that says alot without saying anything. Mirror does the same, creating many magical moments around. Its a love for oneself. Call it my love for mirror.. :)
Saturday, August 9, 2008
Are we living safe in our homes?
We have hopes from our future and we have dreams to fulfil. We all think we'll be able to fulfil them at sometime of our lives. But there is so much going on around us that it seems doomsday is near.
Major and ever existing problems affecting us are politics and corruption. Though politics don't interest me but no one can close eyes watching the troubles ahead, expecting an escape from them. So specially in our country politicians are smart, efficient and forsighted when it comes to their seats in election. They prefer to serve themselves more than serving the nation. Eating out crores of money and then declaring lack of funds for development, imposing the cost on general public is the kind of work most of them do!! And so we are once again spectators.. We go and vote to the political party we think is lesser dacoit!! Others vote, feeling ruling party must be changed every five years as prolonged rule means elongated power and increased corruption . No genuine person wants to step up in politics as it makes good ones bad.. Just like if ur sitting among blind people for long, you slowly starts ignoring the details as others. Details loose their value..
And when we talk about corruption, it seems to be an ever-lasting phenomena in our country that is becoming larger with time. Be it hospitals, politics, government offices, media or anywhere else, corruption is more or less there!!
And now never ending war of religion has been joined by war of region.
This Maharashtra issue is just too much to gulp!! Maharashtra for Marathis. Bravo!! So we are dividing this country into other small countries.. And if all the states comes up with the similar theory, we'd be no more a nation and we'll have to use our passports to go to other states. Why Governemnt is not using its energy to take out fugitives who are living here without any valid ID from this country. Why government is not using its energy in creating better job opportunities. Our proficient doctors and engineers are not getting jobs here and are moving abroad. And the kind of doctors we are going to get for ourselves will be the outcome of the raised quota for S.C. and S.T.s. This all looks as if this Government is following the old british Policy of 'divide n rule' by reminding ourselves of our castes, religions and regions to rule the nation and to retain its respective post. It is hardly concerned for the masses just for the sake of winning the seat in next election!!
Lastest being the nuclear deal issue. About which like majority of the people i too am not happy. The major issue of concern is zero transperancy of its contents. Nothing is clear as yet about it. Anyway cant blame it as we dont know what the other parties wud have done if they were in the same place.
And again another major issue of concern, decision regarding removing ban from SIMI (Students Islamic Movement of India) which has been engaged into terrorist activities in the nation as per reports.
So here we are rusting from outside and inside. Increased corruption, increased terrorism, Nuclear deal issue, religional war, regional war, our lost values, and changed preferences, increased murders, high rise in divorce rate, easy flow of money to younger lot, increase in people indulged in smoking and boozing, shorter temper of youngsters, and muders out of sudden fits of rage or to buy luxury and status between friends..
This was brief introduction of India today and a warning of what it can become tomorrow. So we are becoming worst of worsts. Are we really sure we are living safe in our homes with atleast fine, even if not great, future ahead??
Major and ever existing problems affecting us are politics and corruption. Though politics don't interest me but no one can close eyes watching the troubles ahead, expecting an escape from them. So specially in our country politicians are smart, efficient and forsighted when it comes to their seats in election. They prefer to serve themselves more than serving the nation. Eating out crores of money and then declaring lack of funds for development, imposing the cost on general public is the kind of work most of them do!! And so we are once again spectators.. We go and vote to the political party we think is lesser dacoit!! Others vote, feeling ruling party must be changed every five years as prolonged rule means elongated power and increased corruption . No genuine person wants to step up in politics as it makes good ones bad.. Just like if ur sitting among blind people for long, you slowly starts ignoring the details as others. Details loose their value..
And when we talk about corruption, it seems to be an ever-lasting phenomena in our country that is becoming larger with time. Be it hospitals, politics, government offices, media or anywhere else, corruption is more or less there!!
And now never ending war of religion has been joined by war of region.
This Maharashtra issue is just too much to gulp!! Maharashtra for Marathis. Bravo!! So we are dividing this country into other small countries.. And if all the states comes up with the similar theory, we'd be no more a nation and we'll have to use our passports to go to other states. Why Governemnt is not using its energy to take out fugitives who are living here without any valid ID from this country. Why government is not using its energy in creating better job opportunities. Our proficient doctors and engineers are not getting jobs here and are moving abroad. And the kind of doctors we are going to get for ourselves will be the outcome of the raised quota for S.C. and S.T.s. This all looks as if this Government is following the old british Policy of 'divide n rule' by reminding ourselves of our castes, religions and regions to rule the nation and to retain its respective post. It is hardly concerned for the masses just for the sake of winning the seat in next election!!
Lastest being the nuclear deal issue. About which like majority of the people i too am not happy. The major issue of concern is zero transperancy of its contents. Nothing is clear as yet about it. Anyway cant blame it as we dont know what the other parties wud have done if they were in the same place.
And again another major issue of concern, decision regarding removing ban from SIMI (Students Islamic Movement of India) which has been engaged into terrorist activities in the nation as per reports.
So here we are rusting from outside and inside. Increased corruption, increased terrorism, Nuclear deal issue, religional war, regional war, our lost values, and changed preferences, increased murders, high rise in divorce rate, easy flow of money to younger lot, increase in people indulged in smoking and boozing, shorter temper of youngsters, and muders out of sudden fits of rage or to buy luxury and status between friends..
This was brief introduction of India today and a warning of what it can become tomorrow. So we are becoming worst of worsts. Are we really sure we are living safe in our homes with atleast fine, even if not great, future ahead??
Saturday, August 2, 2008
Divorce Rate, Another Rising Graph!!
Increasing number of divorces prompted me to write this post. The rate is going high with such a pace that it seems the time is about to come when number of divorces would be overshooting the number of marriages. It is believed people who are married tend to be happier than those living alone. We marry because we need someone who can be our friend rather more than a friend for the lifetime. That someone can be better described as our "soulmate". Marriage is all about living together, sharing all the sorrows and joys. In simpler words marriage is all about "growing old together". When nobody is around, one should still be able to find someone besides oneself at all times.. Thats marriage.. Though its better to be alone than to have an unhappy marriage..
But why do people have unhappy marriage? Today when people know whom they are actually getting married to (be it arranged or love), they still want to split up after tying up the knot.
One of the major reason behind it is that in todays era girls are emerging as successful people in their respective fields. In past a woman was confined to home making and her life was nothing beyond kitchen. She had no view point of her own and even if the guy comes out to be the wrong one, she was compelled to adjust with him by the so called society and family. But today she is successful in her field and she is clear about her long term aims. Even if she is homemaker, she knows what she wants from life. But men haven't changed much with respect to change in women. Many of them still want to rule their respective halves. Though its not their fault entirely, they have been brought up in this fashion. There are the men who want to have a wife with the modern attire and historian mind. And when things dont turn out the way they want, fights emerge from nowhere turning into battles. Thank God with the boom in ecomnomic structure, Indian woman has become self sufficient and financially independent and she has learned to come out of exploitative, suffocating and frustrating marital relationships with that useless husband. Women of today must become mentally tougher and strive to rule this male dominated world, where marriage is broken by the groom's side just because of deficient dowry. Another cruel but true aspect behind divorces.
Another reason can be the high expectations. Both girl or the boy shows best of himself/herself during the courship period making the other person partially blind raising expectations. And when these expectations are not fulfilled after marriage, that person becomes frustrated. And hence many small frustrations forces one to sign up the divorce papers. One must realise, that knowing somebody over years and living together, is altogether a different scenerio. With the zing of modernisation, minds of people are craving for more. The time has come when they want more from their lives. They want more from their work, their jobs and they want more from their marriage too. And they look for someone out of the marriage and get themselves indulged in infedility. when earlier this was prominent in men, today women are no less. Their excuse is they want to have a look over some pizzas and peppy pastas apart from regular conventional daal roti. They feel they want more attention. Even if it equals from the two people!! When everything changes , why not values too!! Tempraments of people too are changing to a great deal. We all have become short tempered. In these busy schedules, nobody has time for anything, not even time to save a marriage. No one wants to adjust a bit. There are couples who feels that they differ in all aspects and cant walk a single mile together. And shockingly many of them realises this in a month after tying up the knot. After a few disputes, they find themselves inapropriate match for each other. No body realises that to make a relationship flourish one needs time. No two people on earth have exactly same viewpoints. Even children who are born and brought up by the same family in exactly same fashion have entirely different outlook from each other. So how can we expect our spouse to understand us just in a flare of seconds without giving him/her time at all. There are other factors too like forced marriage of boy/girl by the family due to the fear of society, which results in either frustrated marriage, divorce or sucide. With the change in time, things are changing, people are changing, so are the priorities. We have forgotten if marriage means bells, flowers, joys divorces are all about pain, turmoil and frustration. We have come from a joint family system and we are heading towards being the nation of divorced and frustrated. We have to realise what examples are we setting up before next generations. We have to teach our kids the true meaning of marriage viz. respect, understanding and adjustment. Today we need a genuine commitment in marriage. One should thoroughly think over before getting into a commitment as it is a lifetime decision. Its better to save a marriage for first time as its lot more tougher the second time. Though no one must ever compromise where the issue streches up to one's self respect and its better to move off than to stay..
Pay heed to details before its too late..
But why do people have unhappy marriage? Today when people know whom they are actually getting married to (be it arranged or love), they still want to split up after tying up the knot.
One of the major reason behind it is that in todays era girls are emerging as successful people in their respective fields. In past a woman was confined to home making and her life was nothing beyond kitchen. She had no view point of her own and even if the guy comes out to be the wrong one, she was compelled to adjust with him by the so called society and family. But today she is successful in her field and she is clear about her long term aims. Even if she is homemaker, she knows what she wants from life. But men haven't changed much with respect to change in women. Many of them still want to rule their respective halves. Though its not their fault entirely, they have been brought up in this fashion. There are the men who want to have a wife with the modern attire and historian mind. And when things dont turn out the way they want, fights emerge from nowhere turning into battles. Thank God with the boom in ecomnomic structure, Indian woman has become self sufficient and financially independent and she has learned to come out of exploitative, suffocating and frustrating marital relationships with that useless husband. Women of today must become mentally tougher and strive to rule this male dominated world, where marriage is broken by the groom's side just because of deficient dowry. Another cruel but true aspect behind divorces.
Another reason can be the high expectations. Both girl or the boy shows best of himself/herself during the courship period making the other person partially blind raising expectations. And when these expectations are not fulfilled after marriage, that person becomes frustrated. And hence many small frustrations forces one to sign up the divorce papers. One must realise, that knowing somebody over years and living together, is altogether a different scenerio. With the zing of modernisation, minds of people are craving for more. The time has come when they want more from their lives. They want more from their work, their jobs and they want more from their marriage too. And they look for someone out of the marriage and get themselves indulged in infedility. when earlier this was prominent in men, today women are no less. Their excuse is they want to have a look over some pizzas and peppy pastas apart from regular conventional daal roti. They feel they want more attention. Even if it equals from the two people!! When everything changes , why not values too!! Tempraments of people too are changing to a great deal. We all have become short tempered. In these busy schedules, nobody has time for anything, not even time to save a marriage. No one wants to adjust a bit. There are couples who feels that they differ in all aspects and cant walk a single mile together. And shockingly many of them realises this in a month after tying up the knot. After a few disputes, they find themselves inapropriate match for each other. No body realises that to make a relationship flourish one needs time. No two people on earth have exactly same viewpoints. Even children who are born and brought up by the same family in exactly same fashion have entirely different outlook from each other. So how can we expect our spouse to understand us just in a flare of seconds without giving him/her time at all. There are other factors too like forced marriage of boy/girl by the family due to the fear of society, which results in either frustrated marriage, divorce or sucide. With the change in time, things are changing, people are changing, so are the priorities. We have forgotten if marriage means bells, flowers, joys divorces are all about pain, turmoil and frustration. We have come from a joint family system and we are heading towards being the nation of divorced and frustrated. We have to realise what examples are we setting up before next generations. We have to teach our kids the true meaning of marriage viz. respect, understanding and adjustment. Today we need a genuine commitment in marriage. One should thoroughly think over before getting into a commitment as it is a lifetime decision. Its better to save a marriage for first time as its lot more tougher the second time. Though no one must ever compromise where the issue streches up to one's self respect and its better to move off than to stay..
Pay heed to details before its too late..
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